Between the launch of my companies LGBT resource group, where I will be the executive sponsor, and interviewing to join the Board of Directors of a nonprofit LGBT health organization, my life is about to launch into the next phase of this amazing journey.
The coming out process has been truly empowering, but the next phase will make my new gay life much more public. I am a senior executive in a major regional corporation, and I’ll soon be the senior gay executive. Maybe in Washington DC everyone has a big job and is out. I don’t know. But it feels like big-time stuff to me.
So what do I want from this new phase of my life? Here goes:
- I want to build community. I have a growing group of LGBT friends that I cherish. As I go forward in my life I really want to build a larger community and network of LGBT friends and family that I can have for years to come.
- I want to be visible and active in Washington’s LGBT community. I’ve been in the shadows my whole adult life. I think I can make a difference. I think I can give back in a way that is meaningful for me and that helps others. I have sat on the sidelines hiding for way too long. Now it’s time for me to emerge and participate.
- I want it all, and I want it now! As I pushed myself these past three years to move forward in my life, I kept thinking of the line from the movie, My Cousin Vinny: “My biological clock is ticking”. At 56 I feel that I only have a limited window of time to get out there and have a life, and I’m not going to waste it.
- I’m going to get some life back into my life. I also think of Carol Channing singing, Before the Parade Passes by:
Before the parade passes by
I’ve gotta get some life back into my life
I’m ready to move out in front
I’ve had enough of just passing by life
Carol Channing’s song from Hello Dolly could be the anthem for this phase of my life. And the fact that I can quote lines from Hello Dolly should have been a sign to someone long ago that this boy was gay.
- I want to find love. Dating through Match or OkCupid is ok but a very difficult way to meet people, and the smart phone apps or bars are a waste of time. I think being active in the LGBT scene in Washington will let me meet all sorts of interesting people. So even if I don’t find love, I’m sure I’ll make some great friends. But love is clearly one of my goals.
And for now I think that’s plenty.