About A Boy Who Will Be Gay

The other day my sister shared with me that she missed being able to go my parents, who are now in their mid 80’s, for their counsel and advice. It surprised me, because, since leaving home for college, I’ve rarely gone to my parents for any kind of counsel or advice.

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Real Boys Are…

I am fascinated by the subject of transgender men and women and their stories. Earlier this year I read Janet Mock’s new book, Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love & So Much More. It was a wonderful book that I could not put it down. I am now reading another autobiography by a transgender woman, A Queer and Pleasant Danger: A Memoir by Kate Bornstein. This is a very different kind of book, but also quite enjoyable. Continue reading

Roller Derby Queens

I never wanted to be a woman, but I do remember identifying and finding strength with certain women growing up. Three women in particular had a powerful impact on me: roller derby star Judy Arnold of Philadelphia Warriors; Tina Turner who I loved from the first time I saw her on television; and Alberta Hunter, the great blues and jazz singer. Continue reading

Getting Old

I spent the weekend watching my two and a half year old niece while my brother and sister-in-law were in London. I admit I came with a bit of trepidation, not knowing how my niece would take to me, since we have not spent much time together, as I live in a different city. But she had been well prepared by her mother and started jumping on the bed with excitement when I arrived. She turned out to be delightful, smart and talkative, easy to manage, and happy—what more could you ask for? Continue reading

Baby It’s Cold Outside

I remember watching the Glee Christmas Special in 2011 when Kurt (Chris Colfer) and Blaine (Darren Chriss) sang “Baby It’s Cold Outside” — one of my favorite songs. I cried when I saw this performance for the first time. It was one of the pivotal events that helped push me other of the closet. When I saw this on Glee it was so beautifully done and in the world that it helped me see how much the world had changed and also that I could no longer live with the pain and loneliness of remaining in the closet. Continue reading