I’m reading a new book published just this week by Robbie Rogers and Eric Marcus: Coming Out To Play. It is the autobiography of Rogers, the first professional soccer player to come out as gay. Continue reading
I separated from my wife a year and a half ago so that I could begin my life as a gay man. We were determined to still spend important holidays together, mostly for the sake of our son. Yesterday was the second Thanksgiving since our separation that we celebrated as a family, in the home we own. My parents came to Washington, DC and stayed overnight, at the invitation of my wife, in our home. My wife’s family: parents, sister, brother and his family and in-laws, along with a few other invited guests attended the event in our house. A house I have not lived in for a year and a half. Continue reading
On the road to coming out my first year in college I met Christopher. He was a friend of my best friend Nina and it was Nina that introduced us. Introduced is probably a bit of a misnomer. I had met Christopher briefly and seen him in group settings and he struck me as odd and a bit weird. I did not want to have much to do with Christopher. But, as happens, my ego got in the way. Nina came to me and said, “Christopher’s a virgin. He really likes you and wants to sleep with you.” Well, whose ego could turn down that kind of proposal at 18 years old? Soon after that Christopher and I had sex for the first time.
I’m re-listening to the book, The Velvet Rage, by Alan Downs. It was a very important book in my coming out process when I read two and a half years ago. As I hear the book again, there is so much valuable information which I had forgotten. One of the important cornerstones of the book, which I have been thinking freshly about is the concept of ‘toxic shame’. Having spent the last year and a half coming out, I was beginning to feel I was finished with the shame I once felt about being gay. But I am seeing that overcoming shame is really a lifelong process.
We recently launched an LGBT Resource Group at my company and I am acting as the executive sponsor. As part of launching this group we are holding Lunch & Learn meeting around the company at different company locations. The attendance has been generally small but the discussion lively.
I was fascinated by and impressed with a young man I met in my work as Executive Sponsor for our LGBT Resource Group that came to a ‘Lunch & Learn’ meeting to introduce the group. Continue reading
I really have only done drag once in my life, if you do not include the Rocky Horror costume I made my first year in college for halloween. My most recent drag experience was at a workshop I took a year ago the week before I separated from my wife. The workshop itself is hard to sum up, but simply put, it was a personal growth workshop for men only of all sexual persuasions, but most attendees were gay. Continue reading