The Space Between

There is usually a period of time between realizing quietly to yourself that you are gay or bisexual, and telling your female partner or spouse. It is one of the most difficult, lonely periods of time. Trying to decide the right course of action can eat a man up inside and cause all sorts of emotional pain. Continue reading

Less Than Everyone Else?

Walking to my car yesterday morning, I noticed the HRC logo bumper sticker I had placed on the rear bumper of my car a few months ago. The day I put it on, I did so with a bit of fear and trepidation. I wondered if the car would be vandalized because of the sticker. I wondered if people would honk or give me the finger as a friend of mine had shared happened to him. But more than anything else this little bit of public display stirred up an old fear that I would be seen as less then everyone else. Continue reading

A Whole Life

I had dinner with my wife on Monday. We have been separated for almost a year and a half. It was a nice, easy, relaxed dinner. We both have clearly overcome some of the pain and hurt of our separation and my coming out. Although, my wife’s pain is not to far below the surface, and I can not really talk to her about my life today without that pain quickly coming to the surface. Continue reading

What A Difference A Year (and a few months) Makes

This Fall my son went off to college, and this weekend is parents weekend, where all the families come up to the University to visit.  When I think back to the summer of 2013 when my wife and I separated, and the painful months leading up to my moving out of our home of 14 years into my own apartment, I marvel at how far we have come.  Continue reading