Marriage Revisited – Part 1


When I separated from my wife, moving out of our family home and moving into an apartment, my life changed dramatically. Within a few weeks, I came (back) out to my parents, both in their mid-80s, my 86 year old aunt, my four siblings, and some of my closest friends. Continue reading

Get a Job

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When I separated from my wife a year and a half ago, I agreed, because I was the one working at the time, to continue to support her and my son, as I had always done. At the time I felt it was he right thing for me to do. I believed, perhaps naïvely that our financial arrangements, since my wife had take early retirement in 2005, did not really need to change much. But a year and a half later, I am seeing things differently. Continue reading

Hiding in Plain Sight

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Last night I was at a business dinner and stood around talking with three other men. One of the men described a lifetime award he had recently received for his work over the years with the Boy Scouts of America and noted that he had been a Regional Council president for a number of years. One of the other men asked if he was president when all the uproar happened. Continue reading

Flipping the Script


I found a fantastic YouTube video with Janet Mock, titled, Activist Janet Mock Flips the Script on Reporter: Asks Her to Prove Her Womanhood.  Mock ‘flips the script’ on Fusion’s Alicia Menendez. She asks Alicia what it is like to be a cisgender woman. For those of you new to the term cisgender, or cis for short, it is a term used to describe a gender identity where the individual’s experiences of their gender match the sex they were assigned at birth. Simply put, a straight person’s gender identity matches the gender they were assigned at birth. Continue reading