Green Lantern’s Ring

green lantern

When I looked down at my wedding ring, like the ring the Green Lantern wore that gave him his power, I imagined my ring had the world see only the straight married man. My ring exerted a powerful force field that hid all the chaos inside and kept my torment about my sexuality hidden.  Continue reading

Friday 2:53 AM

Friday 2:53 AM

“Hey dad, I know you probably are asleep right now, but I saw a movie, and it reminded me of you. It’s called Beginners, you might have seen it. I just wanted to say I love you and will always love you no matter what happens. You are the greatest father, and you have taught me how to be a man. Sorry for the late text, but I feel like sometimes I don’t really show how much I appreciate you, and I just wanted to make sure you knew.” Continue reading

Now That I’m Dancing Who Cares If I Ever Stop!*


Yesterday I walked in Washington, D.C. with a man that I am getting close to. We had gone to a museum and then lunch. As we walked down 17th Street in what is a heavily gay area of D.C., I put my arm through his for what was probably only a few steps. I was very conscious that we were in what I thought of as a safe part of town for gay men, and loved the intimacy of being able to walk in this way. It was a freedom and public display of affection that was intimate and pleasurable. Continue reading

Sympathy or Empathy


What is the difference between empathy and sympathy?


Both empathy and sympathy are feelings concerning other people. Sympathy is literally ‘feeling with’ – compassion for or commiseration with another person. Empathy, by contrast, is literally ‘feeling into’ – the ability to project one’s personality into another person and more fully understand that person. Continue reading

Joy and Rapture


There is a guy who I thought was cute when I first met him at a Meetup event last year. I invited him to a party I had at my home over the holidays. He then sent me a Shout-Out on the MR App which said: geekster thinks you’re handsome. I replied that I thought he was handsome too, and we were off and running. Continue reading

Not Your Shame Alone

Crooked politician hiding face from photographers after political scandal

I received an email from a man in his mid 50’s who is married, considers himself gay, has never been with a man sexually, and feels tremendously guilty and ashamed. He asked me: “Does anyone else have this similar situation – or am I the only 55-year-old virgin to sex with a man who is afraid to change his present situation?”  Continue reading

The Rip Van Winkle Effect


I am reading a fascinating book called Becoming a Visible Man by Jamison Green. The book is about female to male transgender men and it is a wonderful book. In it, Green quotes another man’s experience awakening to who he is, and it is very similar to what gay men go through who come out later in life.

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