Friday 2:53 AM

Friday 2:53 AM

“Hey dad, I know you probably are asleep right now, but I saw a movie, and it reminded me of you. It’s called Beginners, you might have seen it. I just wanted to say I love you and will always love you no matter what happens. You are the greatest father, and you have taught me how to be a man. Sorry for the late text, but I feel like sometimes I don’t really show how much I appreciate you, and I just wanted to make sure you knew.” Continue reading

Now That I’m Dancing Who Cares If I Ever Stop!*

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Yesterday I walked in Washington, D.C. with a man that I am getting close to. We had gone to a museum and then lunch. As we walked down 17th Street in what is a heavily gay area of D.C., I put my arm through his for what was probably only a few steps. I was very conscious that we were in what I thought of as a safe part of town for gay men, and loved the intimacy of being able to walk in this way. It was a freedom and public display of affection that was intimate and pleasurable. Continue reading

Sympathy or Empathy

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What is the difference between empathy and sympathy?

From Dictionary.com:

Both empathy and sympathy are feelings concerning other people. Sympathy is literally ‘feeling with’ – compassion for or commiseration with another person. Empathy, by contrast, is literally ‘feeling into’ – the ability to project one’s personality into another person and more fully understand that person. Continue reading

Not Your Shame Alone

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I received an email from a man in his mid 50’s who is married, considers himself gay, has never been with a man sexually, and feels tremendously guilty and ashamed. He asked me: “Does anyone else have this similar situation – or am I the only 55-year-old virgin to sex with a man who is afraid to change his present situation?”  Continue reading