I facilitate peer support meetings for men who are gay, bi or questioning and have been married or involved with a woman. In a recent meeting, a man said he felt that there were “two versions of myself”. I felt very much the same for most of my adult life. Continue reading →
Gas shortages of the 1970s led to even and odd calendar day rationing
My father died last month at the age of 92 after a very long decline. He had no chronic condition but six-years ago had a heart valve repair surgery from which he never fully recovered. The rate of his decline was so slow that his caregivers and I were surprised that he did not pass away years ago. Over a period of six years, he slowly made his way towards death. Continue reading →
When the world is staying at home, and your wedding officiant is across the country fearful of traveling through airports and in planes, the only option left is to move the wedding online. Continue reading →
I sat at dinner looking through the sliding glass door at a small woodpecker seeming to hop up and down the side of a large tree in our back yard. A curious thought occurred to me: What do the birds think about the pandemic? And the simple answer I had was that they are blissfully ignorant as they go looking for whatever small bugs woodpeckers eat. They move through the world without an inkling of what the human population of the planet is currently experiencing. Continue reading →
I have been dating my partner, now my finance, for over five years. Five years and three months to be exact. We met shortly after I made the decision to come out, had separated from my wife and moved into my own apartment. We met at a Meetup group that held monthly dinners in local restaurants for gay and bi men. A mutual friend introduced us. But, it would be eight months before we would go on our first date. Continue reading →
We have been home now for over a week, leaving for only food and long walks around our neighborhood. Luckily, I am here with my partner, soon to be my husband. We compliment each other well and usually do not get on each other’s nerves. But I am anxious to get back to my more active life. I have been asking myself, what do I want to focus on with all this time on my hands? I’ve decided to resurrect this blog, which I used to write in more frequently, and to read more. I’ve also decided to watch less news.
With HIV a manageable disease today, I felt that coming out later in life had its pluses. I hid from the terror of AIDS and HIV for years. In fact, it was AIDS arriving on the scene that was one important factor that had me go back deeply into the closet after a few years straddling the fence. While COVID-19 is a different kind of disease than HIV and AIDS, today we all live in fear of the stranger. Continue reading →