Today I am an out and proud gay man. I am out in every facet of my life. But this has not always been the case. I began dating a woman in 1990, who I fell in love with, and we married two years later. We have a 19 year old son together. While I had know about my attraction to men since I was fourteen, and told my wife when we first started dating, I only began to come out fully about five years ago, and subsequently moved out of my marriage almost three years ago.
As the executive sponsor for my company’s LGBT Employee Resource Group as well as an out gay executive in the company, I started to talk, last month, with the head of human resources, who is responsible for the health insurance that our employees receive, about adding transgender health insurance coverage. This year transgender benefits were excluded from health insurance coverage for our employees.
This morning I attended a breakfast hosted by my company’s Political Action Committee (PAC) for a local political candidate. There were about forty of us in the room. One of the cool things about the meeting was looking around the room and realizing how many individuals from the company’s LGBT Associate Resource Group were attending the event. I counted five gay men, including myself, which I thought was quite wonderful. And of course there might have been other LGBT people attending, but who are not out at work.
A few years ago, before I came out, and long before I came out at work, I studiously hid even the slightest mention of anything gay. Since coming out at work last year and becoming the executive sponsor for my company’s newly formed LGBT Associate Resource Group, I have marveled as some of the LGBT related conversations I have had in the workplace. Continue reading