Hating The Gay Within


A man that I recently met told me that he liked to have sex with men, but that he did not consider himself gay or bisexual. He did not feel any need to have gay friends and wanted nothing to do with the gay community. I asked him if he ever saw himself having a boyfriend or developing an intimate relationship with another man. He did not. He said that he simply liked sex with men, period. Continue reading

A Continual Act of Coming Out


This morning I spoke to a man who is in the process of separating from his wife and getting a divorce. He told me that he loves his wife, but after she found emails between him and other men that he was having sex with, their marriage broke down. He described himself as bisexual and equally attracted to both men and women. He went on to describe that he had not come out to his adult children or his friends and family because of how people see bisexuality. He feels that most people believe that bisexuality does not exist and that a man who claims he is bi is really just gay but cannot admit it. His wife had told him that she thought that he was really gay, which is very unfortunate. Continue reading

Gay With Autism Spectrum Disorder


My nephew, who has Autism Spectrum Disorder, was in Washington, D.C. this weekend on a school trip. He goes to a special boarding school in New England for kids with emotional or learning challenges. While he is almost 17 years old, he talks and acts more like a fourteen-year-old. He has the classic traits of ASD such as an intense focus on a very narrow set of topics that he will ask about nonstop. He has a lumbering gait that makes him look a bit clumsy. He has repetitive behaviors or rituals, such as constantly touching the acne on his face. But with all this, he is a sweet young man and is very easy to like. Last year he shared with his father that he is bisexual. Since he knows I am gay, this has also become a central topic of our relationship. Continue reading

The Gayborhood


Philadelphia’s gayborhood is now easily identifiable thanks to rainbow markers that sit below 36 street signs in the neighborhood, which runs from Chestnut to Pine Streets between 11th and Broad Streets.

My nephew, who will turn 17 in a few weeks, in on the autism spectrum. He is considered high functioning and will graduate from a special high school with a high school diploma in two years. Continue reading