As much I have read about the transgender experience through a number of biographies of trans men and women, and through a few trans individuals I have gotten to know, the trans experience, while more known to me, still feels so different from my own life as a gay man. What I have found most meaningful in the biographies of trans individuals is seeing the similarities with men, like myself, who came out later in life, and being trans but hidden. We both went through parts of our lives hiding who we truly were before deciding we had to come out as gay or trans.
I continue to be interested and read about the experiences of transgender men and women. Today it seems like trans is everywhere — in the news and on TV. Just yesterday the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services announced proposed rules to extend nondiscrimination laws to cover transgender individuals under the Affordable Care Act. This is an amazing and important step that I could not have imagined a year ago. Continue reading
Coming out so late in life, for me, was not just about sexuality. It was about discovering all aspects of the gay world. One of those discovery events happened this week.
I found this wonderful YouTube video with Janet Mock where she ‘flips the script’ on Fusion’s Alicia Menendez. She asks Alicia what it is like to be a cisgender woman. For those of you new to the term cisgender, or cis for short, it is a term used to describe a gender identity where the individuals experiences of their gender matches the sex they were assigned at birth. Simply put, a straight persons gender identity matches the gender they were assigned at birth. Continue reading