An Out, Drunken, Bonding Weekend

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This weekend I visited my son at college for his fraternity’s father’s weekend. As a gay man, I was not quite sure what to expect. Before coming I asked my son, jokingly, was I going to have to play football? A sport which I know very little about. He assured me, no football. Continue reading

Friday 2:53 AM

Friday 2:53 AM

“Hey dad, I know you probably are asleep right now, but I saw a movie, and it reminded me of you. It’s called Beginners, you might have seen it. I just wanted to say I love you and will always love you no matter what happens. You are the greatest father, and you have taught me how to be a man. Sorry for the late text, but I feel like sometimes I don’t really show how much I appreciate you, and I just wanted to make sure you knew.” Continue reading

On The Road To Coming Out

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On the road to coming out my first year in college I met Christopher. He was a friend of my best friend Nina and it was Nina that introduced us. Introduced is probably a bit of a misnomer. I had met Christopher briefly and seen him in group settings and he struck me as odd and a bit weird. I did not want to have much to do with him. But, as happens, my ego got in the way. Nina came to me one day and said, “Christopher’s a virgin. He is making me crazy talking about you all the time. He really likes you and wants to sleep with you.” Well, whose ego could turn down that kind of proposal at 18 years old?  Soon after that Christopher and I had sex for the first time. Continue reading

Getting My Gay Together and Taking it On the Road

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We recently launched an LGBT Resource Group at my company and I have been asked to be the groups executive sponsor. As part of launching this group we are holding Lunch & Learn meeting around the company at different company locations. The attendance has been generally small but the discussion lively. Continue reading

What A Difference A Year (and a few months) Makes

This Fall my son went off to college, and this weekend is parents weekend, where all the families come up to the University to visit.  When I think back to the summer of 2013 when my wife and I separated, and the painful months leading up to my moving out of our home of many years into my own apartment, I marvel at how far we have come.  Continue reading

A Boy Who Will Be Gay

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The other day my sister shared with me that she missed being able to go my parents, who are now in their mid 80’s, for their counsel and advice. It surprised me, because, since leaving home for college, I’ve rarely gone to my parents for any kind of counsel or advice. Continue reading