The Republican Party Platform of Bigotry and Hate

The amount of hate and bigotry in the Republican Party Platform emerging in advance of the Republican Convention next week is deeply disturbing.  According to the New York Times  the platform “amounts to a rightward lurch even from the party’s hard-line platform in 2012 — especially as it addresses gay men, lesbians and transgender people.” The article goes on to say that, “nearly every provision that expressed disapproval of homosexuality, same-sex marriage or transgender rights passed. The platform calls for overturning the Supreme Court marriage decision with a constitutional amendment and makes references to appointing judges “who respect traditional family values.

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Becoming One

Coming Out At Work

Today I am an out and proud gay man. I am out in every facet of my life. But this has not always been the case. I began dating a woman in 1990, who I fell in love with, and we married two years later. We have a 19 year old son together. While I had know about my attraction to men since I was fourteen, and told my wife when we first started dating, I only began to come out fully about five years ago, and subsequently moved out of my marriage almost three years ago.

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A Continual Act of Coming Out

Coming Out

A quote that I love and keep on a piece of paper on my desk at work, from a Washington Post article a few years ago, is this:

“Life seems to be a continual act of coming out, isn’t it? The boundaries we think are uncrossable, the unnamable corners of our soul that we live in fear of bringing to light . . . are the very regions that allow us to feel complete if we dare to explore them. So thank you for crossing borders, shining a light into those corners — they only make you more lovable, more admirable.”

I love this quote because it reminds me to be who I am, and how coming out makes me more true to who I am and more complete.

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Hating The Gay Within

A man that I recently met told me that he liked to have sex with men, but that he did not consider himself gay or bisexual. He did not feel any need to have gay friends and wanted nothing to do with the gay community. I asked him if he ever saw himself having a boyfriend or developing an intimate relationship with another man. He did not. He said that he simply liked sex with men, period.

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Now That I’m Dancing Who Cares If I Ever Stop!*

Yesterday I walked in Washington, D.C. with a man that I am getting close to.  We had gone to a museum and then lunch.  As we walked down 17th Street in what is a heavily gay area of D.C., I put my arm through his for what was probably only a few steps.  I was very conscious that we were in what I thought of as a safe part of town for gay men, and loved the intimacy of being able to walk in this way.  It was a freedom and public display of affection that was intimate and pleasurable.

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The Space Between

There is usually a period of time between realizing quietly to yourself that you are gay or bisexual, and telling your female partner or spouse. It is one of the most difficult, lonely periods of time. Trying to decide the right course of action can eat a man up inside and cause all sorts of emotional pain. Continue reading