The Invitation

New Years Eve

My partner and I decided to go all out this holiday season. We are hosting a Christmas Eve dinner party at my home followed by a New Year’s Eve party at his home. It has been almost a year since we had our first date at a favorite Indian restaurant. January 4th is our one-year anniversary and it is hard to believe that almost a year has passed. Continue reading

My Issue, But Your Issue Too: A Letter to My Son

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As a gay man and a father, I could not have asked for you to be any more supportive than you have been since I came out to you three years ago. When we marched together this past summer, with my boyfriend, surrounded by my coworkers, in the Capital Pride Parade, it was a powerful and empowering experience. Continue reading

Dear Mom and Dad

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It has been a year and two months since I moved out of my marriage and house and into my new life. While the transition actually began two years before I moved out, moving out was the catalyst for tremendous personal growth and change in my life. Continue reading

The Addiction of Coming Out

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What is it that holds so many men in the closet today? The world has gotten dramatically more open, yet so many men that I have met are deathly afraid to be honest about their sexual orientation and come out. Continue reading

Bears, Muscle Bears, Cubs and Other Tribes

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Bears, Muscle Bears, Cubs. It is Bear Week at Provincetown. This town changed almost overnight. The men on the street today are primarily hairy, bearded, larger than when we arrived five days ago. Continue reading

My First Gay Pride Parade

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As I’ve written, I came out of a straight marriage about a year ago. One of the cornerstones of support helping me on the coming out path was a peer support group in Washington DC for men ‘who are married to, have been married to, or are in any other similar relationship with a woman’. The group is called GAMMA DC and can be found online at GAMMAinDC.org. This group has been a lifeline for me.  Through GAMMA I’ve made many wonderful friends and learned a lot about myself. Continue reading