Chronic Stress and Adrenal Response

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The hypothalamic pituitary adrenal (HPA) axis is our central stress response system.

In March of 2020 the specter of COVID-19 began to rise across the United States, Maryland went from three cases on March 5th to closing all non-essential businesses just a few weeks later. Continue reading

Life in the Pandemic

Somehow my husband and I picked the perfect place to sit out a pandemic. We live in a suburban neighborhood in a rented house. Our small development backs up to a county park. We try and do two loops through the park and neighborhood, which is two miles, for our daily walk, weather permitting. We do not wear masks, which so many of my friends find questionable, but we do not come close to anybody in this low-density area.

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I’m Getting Married, Again – Part III

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“Got my tweed pressed, got my best vest, all I need now is the boy
Got my striped tie, got my hopes high
Got the time and the place and I got the rhythm
Now all I need’s the boy to go with’em”

-from All I Need Now Is The Girl by Jule Styne, Stephen Sondheim

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I’m Getting Married, Again – Part I

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Some stories you just can not make up.  My partner, now husband, had a beautiful small in-person wedding planned for April 25th.  We had spent weeks picking the venue, a beautiful park-like setting; the caterer, whose food was incredible; a fantastic florist; a day-of-wedding planner; officiant; wedding cake baker, and more. Then came the novel coronavirus, COVID-19. Continue reading

My Dream Wedding…Well Not Exactly

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What a twisted, stressful, and winding road my fiance and I have been on since the novel coronavirus exploded on the scene. We went from months of planning a beautiful, fun, meaningful wedding in a spectacular outdoor setting, to planning something very different. Continue reading

Digital Wedding Bells

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When the world is staying at home, and your wedding officiant is across the country fearful of traveling through airports and in planes, the only option left is to move the wedding online. Continue reading

The Wedding and the Pandemic

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Trying our best to get married

I have been dating my partner, now my finance, for over five years. Five years and three months to be exact. We met shortly after I made the decision to come out, had separated from my wife, and moved into my own apartment. We met at a Meetup group that held monthly dinners in local restaurants for gay and bi men. A mutual friend introduced us. But, it would be eight months before we would go on our first date. Continue reading

The Wedding Kiss

As I have tried to think through why talk of marriage to my partner continues to cause a level of anxiety I have landed on the wedding kiss as one of the key triggers. Continue reading