Beginning the process of divorcing from someone you were married to for twenty three years is not an easy process. It is complicated by the central reason we grew apart and separated in the first place: I could no longer tamp down, suppress, compartmentalize, that I was a gay man.
What are the traits of a good mediator in a divorce? I have called two highly respected mediators from a list of three given to my wife by her lawyer. I envisioned a respectful, thoughtful process. What I have experienced so far is quite different.
Our dog has cancer. He has a form of blood cancer of which there is no cure. The doctors have said the cancer will kill him in three to six months. Last week he had emergency surgery to remove one of his kidneys that had a large tumor, caused by the cancer, that was making him very sick. Tumor free for the moment, you would never know had ever been sick. He is now full of energy and bounce. But as the cancer continues to do its work, other tumors will form and eventually he will die.
The most exciting news is that I came out to my 16-year-old son a few weeks back and it surpassed any of my wildest hopes of how well it would go. Continue reading
There are many times I look at my life and the success I’ve had. Work is a place that I’ve always been successful and with every job attained greater and greater responsibility. Continue reading