Sex With Men

I came out to my future wife on our second date. At the time my attraction to men seemed manageable and for many reasons, including years trying to change from homosexuality, something that I felt at the time was mostly in the past. We spent an intense two months wrestling with this issue before agreeing to continue dating. We married two years later. The topic of my attraction to men soon went underground for the next twenty-two years.

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Two Versions of Myself

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I facilitate peer support meetings for men who are gay, bi or questioning and have been married or involved with a woman. In a recent meeting, a man said he felt that there were “two versions of myself”. I felt very much the same for most of my adult life. Continue reading