A common refrain I have heard from older men, coming out later in life, after marriages to women, is this: “I have found the man of my dreams. I’m so happy.” That is, of course, until a few weeks later, when I hear, “It was incredible until he broke my heart. I’m devastated.”
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What alters our sense of self? How do major life events make us feel less ourselves, and at times, have us lose sight of who we are? Continue reading
My parents are in their late 80’s and last year my brother and I took over the management and care of two adjacent summer houses in New England. We are renting out the larger house for the first time ever this summer and worked for the last year to get the house de-junked, fixed up, spruced up and ready to rent. Continue reading
Beverly Sills in Roberto Devereux
I attended a wonderful production last night at the Metropolitan Opera in New York City of Donizetti’s, Roberto Devereux. We attended with an old friend of my partner who was in New York City for a get together of a group of Beverly Sills’ fans from across the country. Why did they choose to see this opera? According to the Met’s web site:
“Soprano Sondra Radvanovsky takes on the extraordinary challenge of singing all three of Donizetti’s Tudor queen operas in the course of a single season, a rare feat made famous by Beverly Sills—and not attempted on a New York stage since.”
I’ve been thinking a lot about an old friend of mine, Ron, since recently seeing the HBO movie, The Normal Heart. Where did Ron go? Whatever happened to him? I’m determined to find out what happened to his life. Continue reading
Thanksgiving in the USA When You’re Gay and Closeted
It’s Thanksgiving here in the USA and a very odd time to be a closeted gay married man. Big family gatherings tend to accentuate the feeling of loneliness and separateness because it’s a time of hiding and internal stress. While my family, my wife’s family, and a few old friends will descend on our home today, it becomes a time for me to put on my happy family mask and pretend everything is just fine. Continue reading
